Thursday, February 14, 2013

Support system

Alright. Get out your tissues. I'm about to get real sappy up in here!

We've already established how I don't always believe in myself (worth, love, abilities, etc). Same story different day. But what's different in this story is that a bunch of you crazies out there believe in me so much that it's actually helping me change my personal opinions about myself. When I'm in the deep darkness of my destructive mind, my network of family, friends, and acquaintances have a way of lifting me up

Thank you. I don't think I say it enough. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your faith in my abilities--whether it be to put on pants in the morning or run 10 miles--really blows me away. It makes all the miserable fade away and silences those nasty inner critics.

I know I would not be where I am today without the love and support of all the wonderful people in my life. Everyone deserves that! The world is a very lonely place at times, and you need to be able to reach out and know someone cares about you and is cheering you on. I am truly blessed in that area. I must be doing something right!

I have some many great friends that will listen to me babble on about the same boring topics. I have some fabulous friends working to keep me on track with my nutritional and fitness goals. I have some crazy friends that help me blow off steam. I have the supportive friends who are there to pick me up when I fall. And I have at least of thousand acquaintances on Facebook that encourage me to go on with every like or comment. Everyone of you the reads this blog validates my need to share my story. My amazing instructors at New York Sports Club that cheer me on, notice my growth, but don't let me get away with less than 100%.

My advice to anyone trying to do a big life change is to find a support group. An online meeting of like minds. A circle of friends with similar goals. A MeetUp group. Anything. Just put yourself out there and meet new people. My life would be so stagnant if I didn't meet new people and hear their stories. There is no reason to take this journey alone. I know in my life, it takes a village. I wouldn't have it any other way.

If you are looking or are in need of someone to be there for you, let me know. Everyone deserves someone to believe in them or help them get back on track. If you need that, just let me know. I tend to be a busy person, but I make time for people who need me.

I am humbled. Thank you. I honestly don't know what I would do without each and everyone one of you. I am definitely a blessed and lucky individual. I hope I can continue to be a great friend, a positive influence, or a crazy motivator to anyone who needs me.

Life is hard. Why not have some incredible people to help share the load?

2 comments:

  1. Jes,

    Its been a long time my friend and Facebook just doesn't do it. I have to say I have been reading your post and I know in high school you had some problems, but I always knew you would leave that place better than the rest of us. I love what you have done and are doing with you life. I love the fact that you have the drive to get out and do everything you want!

    I need that motivation. That drive. I understand what its like to look at your life and ask yourself "why? What's going to make a difference any way? Whether I do what I want or sit here and veg like I do every night. Who's gonna care? "

    In moving so much, I have lost contact with most of my friends, I have lost the will to do the one thing I have always loved.... exercise. I am almost 27 y.o. and I feel as though I have done nothing worth a damn in my life. I feel that I need to be better do more bur I am good at talking myself out of it. And I then know in my head that I AM a failure so why try... but this is about you...

    So I just wanted to let you know that, (whether or not it matters )I have always seen greatness in your future. You are a beautiful soul and I am glad to have once called you a friend.

    Keep your head high and your eyes looking towards those stars chica! And remember you are awesome!

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  2. Homie, I think I speak for everyone who has the honor of knowing you when I say that WE are blessed to have you in our lives. We met so long ago during the summer of UB, and distance has proven that it can't keep us apart for long. During this time, I saw you grow from an uncertain teenager to a beautiful, confident adult, and I am so proud to call you my friend. Keep being you - you're the only one who can do it right!

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